You cannot change ANYONE, it is only their choice. So one is wasting time worrying about another's bad choices. If you were the one hurt, forgive. We are actually treating ourselves even more so with the accomplishment of forgiveness, then what it is exactly we are giving to the forgiven. Stay hopeful, yet stay guarded. U do not have to have complete trust in someone, to have faith in them. The weak need the strong to see what they can't.
If it isn't life or death, Just be:) Be present in the simple things. Embrace all moments; life changing ones, or a walk in the park. Life is to be enjoyed and captured full heartedly, letting absolutely nothing fall through the cracks. Wasting our thoughts and our energy on anything negative, is just stripping ourselves of the purest talent god granted each of us... the ability to love. You cannot love with all you can give, with the slightest grudge or resentment in your heart<3